Tuesday, August 28, 2012
We have a beautiful park here in Walla Walla, with gorgeous trees, hundreds of years old. Complete with aviary and large pond with ducks. The big gazebo in the middle of the park reminds me of a movie. This park is the place where families take their children to play, or their dogs to walk. People have been married there, celebrate birthdays and take romantic walks. The town 4th of July celebration is held there. It is absolutely gorgeous. And, it is close enough to our house that we can walk to it. Plus, I get to drive by it every single day.
As I was driving past the park this morning on my way to work, memories of when we first moved here started to flood my mind. The park evoked one particular memory which, as I think of it now, makes me kind of laugh and shake my head. We were very new here and didn't have any friends yet but were getting to know some people. One woman, about my age, asked me if I wanted to walk through the park with her early one morning. It sounded fun, so I said yes. We walked and talked and laughed and it was very enjoyable. At the end of the walk, she said, "Well, you definitely have potential to be a friend." Say what?!
I never dreamed that I was asked to take a walk so that I could be vetted by this woman! It was like an audition to be her friend! If she had handed me a "friend application" it would have been less weird.
Needless to say, I didn't want to be her friend. I didn't want to have to "measure up" or be afraid that I might say the wrong thing and she would fire me or put me on probation.
I smile now when I think of it, but at the time it was hurtful. Would you be hurt or put off by that statement??