tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post6716783408406746831..comments2023-10-30T02:48:26.520-07:00Comments on Life . . . Minute by Minute: Listening Equals CaringJudyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16917139752555698353noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-42850776298987475372012-02-07T09:07:36.911-08:002012-02-07T09:07:36.911-08:00I think I am guilty of it, but not to everyone. I ...I think I am guilty of it, but not to everyone. I tend to do it more when talking to an acquaintance and this is like the millionth time that I have heard the same story. I have noticed how easy it can become to tune it out then.Gossip_Grlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06603645371306284338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-54888142179109129902012-02-07T07:25:35.385-08:002012-02-07T07:25:35.385-08:00This is something I try to be really aware of--the...This is something I try to be really aware of--the listening part--because it is so annoying and even hurtful when someone doesn't actually listen, especially when they started the line of conversation. I will confess, though, as a listener, to sometimes being easily distracted by what's going on around us, etc. When I feel it happening, it makes me feel terrible. Thanks for the reminder of how important it really is to do better.Masked Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08197019009052401812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-70435798809756834822012-02-07T05:16:11.261-08:002012-02-07T05:16:11.261-08:00Absolutely - people yearn to be heard - and SEEN. ...Absolutely - people yearn to be heard - and SEEN. That has been a theme in my own life for some time now.Graciewildehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00142582724233027386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-32070395937433313592012-02-06T17:39:04.330-08:002012-02-06T17:39:04.330-08:00A very good reminder. Thanks Judy!A very good reminder. Thanks Judy!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05754778263332756663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-12248569900322177852012-02-06T16:31:42.527-08:002012-02-06T16:31:42.527-08:00totally agree that sometimes people need to talk -...totally agree that sometimes people need to talk - that's why being a good and intuitive listener is such a great skill. I also think, though, that most (not all) people have the ability to be a good listener - - if they can just get over themselves for 2 seconds. Oh well, I can only change myself and try to be a better person overall. :)Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16917139752555698353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-65889055254837747142012-02-06T16:26:10.235-08:002012-02-06T16:26:10.235-08:00Sometimes people need to have a one way conversati...Sometimes people need to have a one way conversation instead of a 2 way discussion. Whatever the reason, they need to talk and talk and talk and talk. I think that's ok, so long as they take the opposite role sometimes. <br /><br />I've been on both sides. I've been the person who talked nonstop and I've also been the listener in 2 to 5 hour conversations or longer. It's tiring, but when I know the other person needs it, I listen. I also have back and forth conversations. <br /><br />Finding people whose communication styles match can be difficult. <br /><br />I don't think it's always a choice. Some people don't have the capacity to be any other way than how they are. There are a lot of people in my life who I've written off as mentally deficient in this area. It's easier for me when I view them as mentally incapable vs a fully able adult with a choice.Noisy Quiethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15127095448807063093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-75850809062822218952012-02-06T15:28:11.103-08:002012-02-06T15:28:11.103-08:00I have visiting teachers who come in every month a...I have visiting teachers who come in every month and ask the same questions about my children . . . sometimes even forgetting a name. it's a little discouraging and kind of makes me mad, which I am not proud to say.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16917139752555698353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-19409702035611641332012-02-06T15:14:06.249-08:002012-02-06T15:14:06.249-08:00I have a friend, who, for the first couple years I...I have a friend, who, for the first couple years I knew her, amazed me because she seemed to know everyone in our neighborhood and everything about them. As I've gotten to know her better, I've realized that she's the best listener I've ever met. She ALWAYS asks questions about you and your life, rarely talking about herself. She is my inspiration. <br />(I often find myself doing that 'glazed over'thing with my kids and am trying really hard to stop.)Julie DeMillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17929034148906710834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-86637023516624648082012-02-06T14:47:43.486-08:002012-02-06T14:47:43.486-08:00LOL - (my daughter would disown me if she saw that...LOL - (my daughter would disown me if she saw that I just used lol).<br /><br />Mark, you never let me down :)Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16917139752555698353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-8936068812580397102012-02-06T14:45:44.436-08:002012-02-06T14:45:44.436-08:00I'm sorry, Judy, did you just say something? ...I'm sorry, Judy, did you just say something? I must have been daydreaming…(lol)<br /><br />I can joke like that, because you and I have a wonderful two-way-street happening, and I value it immensely. The ability to listen and give feedback, to me, is priceless. It works both ways.Mark O'Neillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16295762252612104201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-61894842050014010392012-02-06T13:44:46.416-08:002012-02-06T13:44:46.416-08:00I tend to not listen more than I should. I love it...I tend to not listen more than I should. I love it when someone really listens to me. You're right, it is something to be thankful for.Tamera Brosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10936689822460368906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-79320552773901427472012-02-06T13:32:28.046-08:002012-02-06T13:32:28.046-08:00I think I am just a little sad that I/we/people do...I think I am just a little sad that I/we/people do not live up to our potential for good. We give in too many times to the little guy on our shoulder whispering in our ear, telling us to be selfish.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16917139752555698353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-89059787131190062412012-02-06T11:59:51.690-08:002012-02-06T11:59:51.690-08:00You sound sad, disappointed, and let down by some ...You sound sad, disappointed, and let down by some people you like. I'm sorry that's happening to you.Noisy Quiethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15127095448807063093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-34714854075310448352012-02-06T10:25:53.798-08:002012-02-06T10:25:53.798-08:00I am in wholehearted agreement with this post. Thi...I am in wholehearted agreement with this post. This is something I think about sometimes: What if the time I choose not to listen is the time that someone was really trying to open up in a way they wouldn't otherwise? Not listening has so much more of an effect on people than merely not hearing them.TangledLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771682524596744447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-74854381519009670002012-02-06T09:26:25.625-08:002012-02-06T09:26:25.625-08:00If I am listening to you and you and you are liste...If I am listening to you and you and you are listening to me who's talking? I know people that don't know how to listen, and their lives are much narrower than mine. Good topic.Colliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02685045796347978263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4790267042141485205.post-51577839681717679402012-02-06T08:19:18.664-08:002012-02-06T08:19:18.664-08:00I'm listening .. but its really all about me a...I'm listening .. but its really all about me and my listening .. ;-)Darylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241795455748298624noreply@blogger.com